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This thing called FORGIVENESS


FORGIVENESS is a way of letting go of the negative energy around an incident. It is impossible to live in this world without being offended, hurt or even contribute to hurting others. In spite of the regularity of this cycle, some of us still struggle to forgive others and ourselves too. 

Max Lucado said “when you are hurt, part of you is broken and the other part bitter. Part of you wants to cry and part of you wants to fight. The tears you cry are hot because they come from your heart and there’s a fire burning in your heart. It’s the fire of anger, it’s blazing, it’s consuming. Its flames tear up under a steaming pot of revenge. And you are left with a decision. Do I put the fire out or heal it up? Do I get over it or get even? Do I release it or resent it? Do I let my hurt heal or do I let the hurt turn into hate? Because we are human and offenses come readily, we are left to make decisions on what to make out of the hurt and you can only make a good decision when you understand the terms and conditions of the subject matter.

Evidence-based research suggests that feelings of anger, hurt and emotional pain releases toxic chemicals inside our body that damage organs and our ability to think creatively. This contributes to varieties of diseases like heart attack, cancer, ulcer, migraine, high blood pressure. In lieu of these unpleasant outcomes, forgiveness is one of the most important steps a person must take on the path to healing. When we consider the gravity of the offense towards us, this negative emotion springs up and we want to revenge or completely keep off from that individual. In any case, PEACE IS SUPERIOR TO JUSTICE. Forgiveness is not granted because a person deserves to be forgiven. Instead, it is an act of love, mercy, and grace that brings healing to the giver and to the offender.

I have been hurt, no doubt you have been hurt too. It is healthier to forgive than to keep the grudge. The hurt might be seemingly ‘too deep’ to forgive but just let it go.
Considering all that we as a creation of God did to Jesus, all the hurt we caused him and everything, but he chose to forgive us all the same even before we asked for it, he forgive us in advance. That’s the best way to live. 
For every hurt that I have experienced in time past and the ones that I might experience cos this hurt thing is inevitable, I choose to forgive the offender in advance. I am not doing this for the offender per se, but for my sanity.

Today and every day I choose to LET LOVE LEAD!. What do you choose?
#gleaningwithgrace

6 thoughts on “This thing called FORGIVENESS

  1. If we don't forgive others, we feel the effect more than the persons not forgiven. We waste out time thinking about them, while many don't even remember our existence.
    Free your mind!
    Free your thoughts!
    Release him!
    Do something productive!

  2. Forgiveness is a virtue
    It is more than a Christian ritual
    To the offender, it is visual
    To the offended, it is a right

    As much we have the right to feel offended, so must we exercise the en-graced right to forgive. It is the weapon that disarms without arms. It takes more than humanity to truly forgive. It takes Divinity to live in it like a lifestyle.

    Thank you for sharing,Grace.
    May we find grace to always forgive before the offence comes.

  3. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you assume you've forgotten about the incident. We can't really forget except we want to play dumb. But when we forgive, with time the whole thing wears off (because forgiveness is a process). However, when sometime in the future we appear to be entering such situation again, we can be guided from past experiences.
    There's much gain in forgiveness.

    Thanks for the insight.

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