The Blessings In Our Pain
Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional – Hakuri Murakami
The above quote happens to be the reality of humans. From the first breath of a child at birth to the dying bed of a man, you see pain underlined in their journey. Think about it!
I always believed I won’t struggle with the thought of losing a loved one, especially from my immediate family. I felt we were going to live as long as life itself and this really affected how I took the news of my father’s passing.
We all experience varying levels of pain, challenge, and struggle at different seasons of our lives, from losing a loved one, to failing an exam, to heartbreaks, to denial of legitimate rights, to not having a child (ren) at the time expected, and a bunch of other reasons that account for our pain. It is very crucial we understand the kind of pain that we are going through because most of the time, pain has a way of calling our attention to areas of our life that needs help.
These pains you feel are messengers. listen to them – Rumi
When someone around you goes through pain, it is not compulsory for you to always be the healer or try to administer the fix-it approach. Sometimes, you try out the ministry of presence (This does not imply you own a church called Presence o😂) by being there for them and being in the moment with them and because we are humans, we may not have all the answers to life’s problems e.g the loss of a loved one. When we are comforting the bereaved, they really don’t need plenty of words from us, they might need you to just be there, be around them, that on its own is comforting enough.
People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. They try to hide their pain, especially the male folks but they are wrong. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are part of you. You should stand up for the right to feel your pain. It will only subside when we acknowledge it and care for it and because pain has the capacity of mutilating the form of a human being, it is best we do not discard it but be upfront with it. Pain insists on being attended to. Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it.
God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our consciences but shouts in our pains. It is his megaphone to rouse a deaf world.- C.S Lewis
Pain does 2 things for us:
1. It tells us that we are alive.
2. It passes away and leaves us changed. It leaves us wiser sometimes.
Going through a crisis has its level of pain and its bunch of lessons because your experience is going to help someone out of theirs which is why you are blessed to bless others. You are encouraged so you can encourage others. You’ve been comforted so you can be a source of comfort to others. Don’t let a crisis waste because someone is depending on your lessons for their own journey.
You are supposed to come out of a crisis with counsel. Flip your crisis into cornerstone questions and in John Obidi’s word, “make the rest of your life the best of your life”.
With all my love,