Of Friendships And Relationships…

Of Friendships and Relationships


The quality of our relationships determine the quality of our livesEsther Perel



Of friendships and relationships, of bonds and connections, we are wired for love and belonging.

When you cultivate quality relationships, not only do you feel better and help your friends feel better, but you contribute to an increase of joy, love and peace in the world – Tara Bianca


Relationship is wealth. When you hear that someone is wealthy, it is not necessarily about the amount they have in their bank account. Cash remains the lowest form of money.

The intangible money; credibility, companionship, character and competence always attract the tangible money, cash.

To give it perspective, here are 5 forms of money:

  1. Credibility – Consistency of result
  2. Companionship – Consistency of relationship
  3. Character – Consistency of conduct
  4. Competence – Consistency of performance
  5. Cash

Effectively utilizing the first four above would ultimately attract the fifth one. joo get?

Back to the gist,

We are wired for love, connection and belonging. The bond and connection we have with other people provides us with a great sense of meaning, wellbeing than any other experience.

We constantly strive to belong a family, a community, a project or a person and when we don’t find that form of connection that we desire, we are almost always worried to death.

We were created for social connection, and are at our best when we have healthy relationships with people who genuinely care about us, respects us and lifts us up – Robyn L. Gobin

When we eventually find the right person or the right community, we already have a preconceived notion about them. What a creation we are! So complex, yet beautiful in our complexity.

Of expectations…

Our expectations are usually high of them. We always want everything from them.

How we want them to love us, how we want them to always be there for us, how we want them to support us, how we want them to be the alpha and omega in our lives. That’s a great thing!

We quickly forget that they are humans too, and at their best, they will still remain human, with their own limitations.

One relationship cannot provide us with everything, lest we weary it and cause it to strain.

Define the concept of your relationship and know what each is providing for you realizing that it’s a two way thing, you give and you take.

Don’t assume that you will get everything that you want if you do not ask for what you want.

Each of us is different from day to day, moment to moment, year to year. Rather than holding on to what we imagined, It is critical that we calibrate our expectations on our relationships hinged on the right knowledge.

We can develop more skills on communication, trust, boundaries, and stating our needs and expectations and also asking what the need of the other person is to help improve our relationships.

Trust is involved in all the basic elements of a healthy relationship: namely, love (respect and consideration for another person ), communication, commitment, and honesty – Harold Duarte-Bernhardt


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12 thoughts on “Of Friendships And Relationships…

  1. “Define the concept of your relationship and know what each is providing for you…” this is a line i will keep in my proverbial left hand.

  2. This is for me an eye opener, an amazing piece worthy of constant revisit et meditation. Thanks Adedayo Grace Amarachi for this wonderful piece.

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